Imagine there's a party like, say, an AIM BeerPub, an event that is known to get people from different groups or factions together and have them know each other better and socialize. And you know that this type of event has always been open with little restrictions, if any.
How would you feel if you hear that you're not supposed to be there?
"Left high and dry," "left out in the cold," "excluded"?
No matter how you would describe it, the feeling sucks, right? You probably would feel a little slighted, but then again, you will try to grab a good and logical explanation why things are turning out that way. However, at that point you are already irrational and no matter what people tell you, you will feel you were shut out and decide to hole up and ignore the whole event, and think you have better ways of spending your time.
Yeah, this is a rant. A whiny rant at that.